I texted my mom first thing this morning on Valentine’s Day to see if there was a package on its way. I thought maybe it was late. But she quickly responded that there was not one coming…
I will start by recognizing that I am 100% spoiled in many ways, and for example, because my mom still likes to send me holiday packages – Halloween trail mix, Christmas advent calendar, Easter baskets, and the best, which is the Valentine’s Day package. One time, I even got a whole chocolate-chip banana bread that flew with a family friend to Nairobi, Kenya (when I lived there 3 years ago)!
For Valentine’s Day, my mom makes different sized, heart-shaped sugar cookies, ices them, and then paints funny things with red food coloring and a paint brush. Growing up, we would make them together, but since college, it was a package I would look forward to getting it in the mail. She would write notes to my roommates, friends and boyfriends, and I would share them on Valentine’s Day to whomever had been made a cookie.
I would laugh at the ones like “fart-blossom” or “Kiss-kiss.” The level of inappropriateness/silliness usually correlated with the amount of wine my mom and dad had during happy hour while writing on them.
But this year, I didn’t get one. Now that I am almost 28 years old, my mom innocently thought that I had outgrown them. That I was too old.
Well, I don’t think I will ever be too old.
My mom also told me that her mom (my grandmother) used to send her a chocolate easter egg, and one year, when my mom was about my age, she didn’t get an egg. Ever since that one year without the egg, my grandmother has sent the chocolate egg.
I think traditions are important. It’s something that makes us feel human, brings us together, reminds us of our love for each other. It’s not about the cookies (their taste, how many, ect.). It’s in the act of giving and receiving, sharing in those moments together.
And now, I know my mom knows the importance of this tradition, for us, and I’m sure another Valentine’s day will not go by without those heart-shaped cookies.
Happy Valentine’s Day, and I hope we continue to share love in all of our days. Not just today.