There is never enough time to do everything that we dream of doing in this life. Somethings have to give. What will it be – sleep, exercise, family, a boyfriend/girlfriend, friends, health, work…
For me, I have felt that my friendships have weakened in recent years. My friendships today are not what they were, say in high school, college and just post-college. While some friendships have become stronger, many have dwindled.
The combination of living in other countries (making me not physically around), and then using travel to visit family has limited what time I have spent with my friends.
This distancing of friendships gets me sad sometimes. In just 2016, I missed three close friends’ weddings. Weddings that I maybe I would have been a bridesmaid in, but I didn’t even make it to the event.
Another example was from about two months ago, while I was in Washington D.C. with a good friend from college. I realized that the last time we had seen each other was more than 3 years ago, and it was likely the last time we spoke too. This realization made me feel “off” the entire evening, as if it were my fault to have let this happen to this friendship, and I worried that I had many other friends where I had let the same thing happen.
I know that I have not been there for the friends who I truly care about. Friends who I used to spend much of my time and energy with.
I didn’t mean for this to be a sad post, but I try and be thoughtful about what I write and this is what I am thinking about in recent days.
We only have one life, which means that we have nothing to compare it to. There are no do overs. But there is time to reflect and change your life going forward, and I hope that I can find a bit more time to spend with my friends. Because life is about people, and friends are important.