“The more you know, the more you don’t know” – Aristotle
Of course, these are things I think I know about love, but perhaps I don’t know what I’m talking about. So take everything with a grain of salt…
1. A wise woman once told me that a relationship is 60/40, each giving the other 60%. You have to give more than you take for it to work. It is better to give love than to receive love.
2. If you cannot give yourself love, then you cannot truly love someone else. You cannot expect that someone else’s love for you can fill the gaps of love that you have missing for yourself. You should love yourself first, and than you have space to let love in from someone else.
3. You will find love when you stop trying so hard. It can’t be forced. It has to come natural. When you find that you want to be with someone more than you want to do something for yourself, then you might be close to finding it. When that love makes you want to do great things, amazing things, pushing you to be a better you, then you have found something magical.
4. Expectations are important. If you expect someone to buy you flowers or shower you with gifts, that’s fine, just make sure he/she knows that’s important to you. If you both don’t manage each others expectations, that’s when feelings get hurt. You can’t expect them to read your mind. Make sure each of you know what’s important to the other.
5. When you have love to give and a full heart to share, you stop worrying about things that don’t matter. About the clothes you wear, about the calories you eat, about going to the newest restaurant. And you start to realize how trivial a lot of those things are to your happiness. Love can you blind for the better. Blind to things that are unimportant.
I wake up everyday madly in love. It’s a difficult feeling to describe. I feel mental sometimes, like this love has made me insane. Maybe that’s why it’s been described as “falling in love,” “love sick,” or “crazy in love,” because it completely absorbs our sense of being.
And that being the case, I hope to be sick a very long time.
Happy new year and look forward to continuing to connect in 2017!